Tethered Together General Event Rules

Abuse & Harassment Policy

Attendees who use abusive language, promote a sense of unease, or in some other way impact negatively on the event or attendees at the event can be asked to leave at any time without refund.  Be nice to each other, the volunteers, hotel staff and anyone that you come in contact with. Having an event in a hotel is a privilege, and if you seek to behave in a way that would reflect poorly on our group, you will be removed immediately. 


All Tethered Together Attendees but be at least 18 years of age by the first day of the conference.  A current, valid picture ID must be presented at registration. No exceptions. 

Alcohol Policy 

Attendees who chose to purchase alcoholic beverages must be at least 21 years of age.  Any attendee who is noticeably impaired will not be permitted to stay at the event. No drinking is allowed in the dungeon or during classes.  All alcohol must stay in designated spaces. 


According to the ADA, “A service animal means any dog that is individually trained to do work or perform tasks for the benefit of an individual with a disability, including a physical, sensory, psychiatric, intellectual, or other mental disability”. Our hotel is a pet friendly hotel and charges a cleaning fee for overnight guests which is 50 dollars/night.  Comfort/Support animal handlers must get the hotel’s permission prior to bringing an animal that is not a service animal into the hotel or conference space. Animals that are not working or providing assistance to their handler should not be inside the conference space. All service, comfort, and support animals must be under control at all times, updated on all vaccines as required by law, leashed, and if they have an accident – the handler should clean it immediately and report the incident to hotel staff. Handlers are completely responsible for the conduct of their animals in public and private hotel spaces including but not limited to stain removal, medical care for an attendee injured by the animal, etc. We follow the guidelines for service animal definition and behavior found here on the ADA website: https://www.ada.gov/regs2010/service_animal_qa.html

Badges & Wristbands 

Badges and wristbands must be worn at all times while in the hotel.  You must wear BOTH your wristband AND your badge at all times in public event spaces. No admittance through our security checkpoints will be permitted without both wristband and badge displayed. You are expected to keep your badge with you at all times. If it is not physically on you, it must be displayed near you.

Cell Phones

Cell phones can be used to take notes during classes, but should not be used for phone conversations anywhere that would be disruptive to other attendees.  Please silence your cell phone when in the conference space. This includes the sounds from typing on the keyboard, and notifications. Cell phones are not permitted to be out or used in the dungeon during parties even momentarily.


All activities that take place at Tethered Together should be treated with confidentiality. Adhere to the photography policy, and do not share information about other attendees.  If you happen to see someone you know from the vanilla world – don’t make it weird, and do not share that information with anyone without explicit permission. Outing an attendee is considered a serious offense and could result in your expulsion from this event, and future events.


All activity must be consensual, both in and out of play, in both actions and language. No puppy-dogging other attendees.  Be respectful requesting a “yes” and providing a “no”. Treat others politely when possible. (Please see consent policy for more information)

Dress Code

Hotel contracts are precious, it is important to have an incredible amount of decorum when in areas of the hotel that are not behind checkpoints. This includes ALL public areas of the hotel, including the pool. Hotel staff should not be exposed to nudity or lewd commentary. We encourage and support you dressing for your gender and personal expression. Fetish attire is okay, as long as it abides by the following requirements: Everyone’s nipples, genitals, butts should always be covered when in a public area of the hotel.  A sheer shirt over a bare chest is not good enough. Please be respectful of our hotel staff and the occasional Sunday guest that does not realize the hotel is full. Inside our conference space checkpoint, you may be nude. If you are going to sit on an item you do not own, please use a chux. 


First Aid Staff Members will be available to assist with any basic medical needs.  In the event of a life-threatening emergency, call 911. Please notify event staff in the event of an emergency. DMs will be present at all parties and will serve as first responders in the event that a situation arises there.

First Aid

If you need basic first aid during our hours of operation, please ask the hospitality desk to radio for non-emergency first aid.  

Hate Speech – General Hatefulness Policy

Tethered Together is designed to be a space where a variety of identities should feel safe, supported, and represented.  If you use the privilege of attending the event to make hateful, discriminatory, or other just plain mean remarks about an attendee’s gender, sexuality, race, religion, weight, age, economic background, etc.,  you might be asked to leave. You will certainly be asked to apologize. You risk not being invited to attend future events.  

Illegal Activities 

Abide by all state, local, federal laws.

Photography Policy 

Tethered Together does not hire official event photographers. We do allow attendees who create active consent to take photographs using their personal cell phones. Only consenting attendees may be photographed and absolutely no people who do not consent (people walking by, etc.) may be in any photographs taken even if you plan to blur or crop them out. Photography is not permitted in the dungeon during parties, and anyone taking unsolicited photos at any time will be removed without refund. Absolutely no audio or video recording is permitted at any time within event spaces. Please limit your personal photographic equipment in general event spaces to cell phones – not larger cameras or tablets – and use good manners.


Play scenes are restricted to the classrooms and playspaces. Refrain from any kind of play including pinching, fondling, spanking, rough body play, humiliation play, or similar activities while in public spaces, the Serenity Space, or in the Vendor Hall. See Dungeon Rules for play rules during evening parties.


Most restrooms will be all-gender for this event. Please respect the right of others to use the restroom of their choice.


No smoking or vaping in the hotel.


All tickets are pre-sale. No tickets will be sold at the door.  No exceptions.


Our volunteers are community members who have graciously given their time to help our event run more smoothly. We insist that all attendees respect volunteer directions and directives. Issues with volunteer conduct may be brought up to event management by email to [email protected] at any time. During our event weekend, please contact the appropriate team lead or the information desk for assistance with contacting them.